Perfectionism
Overcoming Perfectionism Without Lowering Your Standards
Overcoming perfectionism without lowering your standards is possible. I’m Nicky Anstey, an award winning Leadership Mindset Rewiring Specialist and executive psychotherapist, and at Transform to Perform Coaching I help business owners and senior leaders whose high standards have started costing them time, energy and revenue. Using my REWIRE Method™, I help you keep the high standards and lose the fear behind them. I work with clients in person across Surrey and the South East, and online across the UK and internationally.
- Multi Award-Winning Executive Psychotherapist
- Master NLP Coach & Master Hypnotherapist
- 1,000+ Clients Over 15 Years
Sound familiar?
Is perfectionism holding you back?
You call it high standards. Your nervous system calls it survival.
Perfectionism often shows up in business owners and leaders like this.
- You have become the bottleneck, and everything has to go through you
- You plan to hand something over, then pull it back
- Decisions take more out of you than they should
- You put things off
- You swing between all or nothing
- You keep working longer hours to hold everything to your standard
Perfectionism often turns up alongside people pleasing and imposter syndrome, and many people who come to me find all three running together.
What's the difference between high standards and perfectionism?
High standards are healthy. They help you do great work.
Perfectionism is high standards driven by fear. It leads to overwork, putting things off and, in the end, burnout.
The difference sits underneath. Perfectionism links control, impossibly high standards and overwork with feeling safe. That’s why you can keep your standards. It’s the fear behind them that needs to change.
Why time management and delegation courses don't last
Time management courses and delegation training try to change the behaviour without changing the wiring underneath it. So the pattern comes back as soon as the pressure is on.
You can understand exactly why you do it and still feel the same fear the next time something has to leave your hands. Perfectionism sits at the unconscious level, and that’s where the change needs to happen.
Who I help
Who I work with
I work with business owners, founders and senior leaders who are doing well on the outside, but whose high standards have become a burden. Many carry a lot of responsibility at work and at home, and feel the pressure to perform consistently.
If you’ve become the bottleneck in your own business, this is for you.
I’m based in Elstead, between Farnham, Godalming, Haslemere and Guildford. I see clients in person across Surrey and the South East, including London, Hampshire, Kent and Sussex, and I work online with leaders across the UK and internationally. Online sessions work just as well, and some clients choose a mix of both.
How I help you overcome perfectionism
Here’s how it works.
1. Find out what perfectionism is costing you
Start with the perfectionism page in my Diagnosis Room to see how the pattern shows up for you. My page on the cost of perfectionism in business shows what it can cost you and your team.
2. Have a chat with me
Book a free Reset Call. It’s a private, no-pressure conversation about what’s driving your standards and what changing it would involve. There’s no obligation.
3. Rewire the pattern
My REWIRE Method™ combines NLP, clinical hypnotherapy, psychotherapy and nutritional science to change the pattern at the unconscious level, where perfectionism lives. We work together one to one through my eight-week REWIRE Coaching Programme. You don’t have to go over your past in detail unless it’s relevant. The focus is on moving forward.
What changes
You keep your drive and your high standards. What changes is where they come from. Clients tell me their leadership feels calmer, decisions get easier and the procrastination goes. You can read more about perfectionism coaching with me.
Let's talk
Overcoming perfectionism without lowering your standards starts with one conversation. If any of this sounds like you, book a free Reset Call and let’s talk about what’s driving your standards and what we can do about it.
You can call me on 07795 467090, email me at nicky@transformtoperformcoaching.com, or use the form below. If you’d rather see all the ways to reach me, they’re on my contact page.
About me
A bit about me
I’m Nicky Anstey. I’m an award winning Leadership Mindset Rewiring Specialist and executive psychotherapist, and I’ve spent over 15 years working with more than 1,000 business owners and leaders.
I know what extreme pressure feels like, because I burnt out in my own corporate career. You can read my story if you’d like to know more. That experience led me to study neuroscience, qualify as a Master NLP Coach, Master Hypnotherapist and Master Life and Business Coach, train in psychotherapy and become a Registered Nutritionist.
I created the REWIRE Method™ from everything I learned, and my work has been featured in Men’s Health.
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