The Origin Story
The Origin Story Behind the REWIRE Method™
I did not study my way to this. I lived my way to it.
It was tough but I learned so much – so you now benefit from my journey.
- Multi Award-Winning Leadership Rewiring Specialist
- Executive Performance Coach, Master NLP Coach & Master Hypnotherapist
- 1,000+ Clients Rewired and Transformed since 2011
About this work
Where it started
I know what it is to perform at a high level while everything underneath is fraying. Not theoretically. Not as a case study I read during training. I know it because I was in it.
I had built a career, then a business, holding enormous amounts of pressure and absorbing it as part of the deal. I was strong. I was capable. I was the person who handled things. And I handled things for a long time past the point where handling them was costing me more than I knew.
Burnout, when it came, was not the dramatic collapse I might have imagined. It was quieter than that. It was the slow realisation that I had been running a version of myself that was not sustainable, on wiring that had been laid down long before I had any conscious say in the matter. Perfectionism that looked like high standards. People-pleasing that looked like strong relationships. Imposter syndrome that looked like drive. All of it performing well. All of it exhausting me from the inside.
That experience sent me deep into the neuroscience of how these patterns are built and, more importantly, how they are changed. Not managed. Rewired.
For more personal information on my journey and relationship with success and burnout, you are welcome to **download the Full Story**
What I discovered
The further I went into the neuroscience, into NLP, into clinical hypnotherapy, into psychotherapy, into the research on neuroplasticity and unconscious pattern formation, the clearer something became.
The approaches that were supposed to help high-achieving people were working at the wrong level. Insight-based therapy produces insight. Strategy-based coaching produces strategy. Neither reaches the subcortical programmes running underneath the thoughts and behaviours they are trying to change. You cannot think your way out of wiring. You have to change the wiring.
I had been the person sitting in those sessions, understanding my patterns completely, and waking up the next morning feeling exactly the same way. Not because the approaches were incompetent. But because they were not reaching the level at which these beliefs and patterns lived… The unconscious, foundational mindset.
So I went looking for what would rewire me and trained in those that I found benefitted me. I qualified as a Master NLP Transformation and Business Coach, a Master Hypnotherapist, an Executive Psychotherapist, to add to my degree combining Nutrition and Psychology. Not as separate disciplines to offer in sequence, but as rewiring, strategies and tools in a single integrated process that could reach the patterns at the level they actually existed to hold the transformation in place long term.
Out of that came the REWIRE Method™.
What the work has taught me
Fifteen years. Over 1,000 clients. Every one of them a high achiever. Every one of them strong. Every one of them carrying patterns that were costing them more than they could afford to keep paying.
What I have learned from that work confirms, over and over, a few things I now hold as certain.
The person’s strength is part of the trap. The people I work with are not weak. Their capacity to absorb pressure, to perform through difficulty, to keep going long after ordinary limits have been reached, that very capacity is what allows the patterns to run unchallenged for so long. ‘The Curse of the Strong’ is real.
The root is always findable. However long the pattern has been running, however deeply wired it appears, the root is traceable and changeable. This is not optimism. This is what neuroplasticity means in practice.
Permanent change is possible. I have seen it, repeatedly, even in people who had tried everything else that didn’t work, and then changed with this process. The change that comes from root-cause work, from actually changing the neurological wiring rather than working around it, is not incremental. It is categorical. Clients describe it as before and after. Not because they are being dramatic. Because that is accurately what it is.
Why I am still doing this work
I am still doing this work, since 2011, and a thousand clients in, because of what I see when the wiring changes.
Not just the performance improvement, though that is real, considerable and often rapid. Not just the reduction in exhaustion and anxiety, though those are real too.
It is what happens when a business owner who has spent years surviving their success, performing it, managing it, battling it, finally gets to experience enjoying it. The business feels better. The income gets better. And the internal relationship to what they used to perceive as pressure is entirely different. Their business feels exciting again. Their lives feel balanced. And their relationships connected.
That is what this work produces. And it is why I built it, and why I continue to do it.
What Clients Say
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“Done an absolutely fantastic job. Moved the needle tremendously, given me food for thought and fundamentally allowed me to look at things in the bigger context and ask questions before moving forward.”
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“I was feeling completely lost, overwhelmed, burnt out, totally trapped and stuck in my life and unable to move forward… now I can push through any discomfort that comes up, I trust in my ability, and it’s just really great to feel like I’ve got my life back and enjoy living it again.”
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“I was in a difficult place with a certain level of emptiness… I spent seven weeks with Nicky, and she’s reset me to move forward to my retirement in a much happier place.”
The longer version
The Full Origin Story
The fuller, more personal telling of what Nicky overcame and learned along the way. Plus, how the REWIRE Method™ came to be.
Change the Beliefs and Patterns at the Root
A focused, no-obligation conversation about what is driving the pressure in your situation, and what rewiring it would involve. You will leave with clarity either way.
Thirty minutes, one to one with Nicky
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Share a little about what is going on. Nicky reads every enquiry personally.
No obligation. Confidential. 30 minute call. Fit check for both of us.
Call us: 07795 467090
Email: nicky@transformtoperformcoaching.com
Working across the UK and internationally. One to one work is delivered online, with in-person offered to those who are close or happy to travel. Nicky is happy to discuss travel for corporate engagements.